Pondering morals...
Feb. 9th, 2003 02:07 amA few days ago someone that means something to me thought something flattering about me. Something that wasn't true, based on a misunderstanding, but still rooted in an actual true fact of how I'm perceived.
I told the truth, and now I'm scared that I've lost something, something that I feel would have been good having.
The misunderstanding was not about something essential to me as a person, it was actually about quite a shallow thing, at least in my opinion. But different people have different opinions about these things. It is perhaps a little sad that I'm insecure of this friendship relationship, and fear that it could be punctured by a thing like this.
What if I'd let it slide? The thing is not easily controllable in the context of this relationship...
The friendship would deepen, and if this person was affected by narrow minded conservative views of society, he would perhaps have learned a thing or two when/if the truth would eventually reveal itself.
Yes..I know all the arguments. Truth is always best, if he would loose interest 'cause of this shallow minor thing, then the friendship wasn't much worth anyway..etc etc..
But still I wonder if there could not have been another way...
Oh well, I did tell the truth. Now I can only wait and see...
I told the truth, and now I'm scared that I've lost something, something that I feel would have been good having.
The misunderstanding was not about something essential to me as a person, it was actually about quite a shallow thing, at least in my opinion. But different people have different opinions about these things. It is perhaps a little sad that I'm insecure of this friendship relationship, and fear that it could be punctured by a thing like this.
What if I'd let it slide? The thing is not easily controllable in the context of this relationship...
The friendship would deepen, and if this person was affected by narrow minded conservative views of society, he would perhaps have learned a thing or two when/if the truth would eventually reveal itself.
Yes..I know all the arguments. Truth is always best, if he would loose interest 'cause of this shallow minor thing, then the friendship wasn't much worth anyway..etc etc..
But still I wonder if there could not have been another way...
Oh well, I did tell the truth. Now I can only wait and see...