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..if you post youtube links and "free market" think tank articles dressed up as "research" in your mission to discourage universal health care. And yet I post fact check links that show that the material is skewed or taken out of context at best, or outright lying at worst. The level of fear and stupidity is reaching maximum density in political communities in the US.

..if you're a woman who claim that you get along with men better and don't ever analyze your own motives for why that is. These type of girls are mostly, with the rare exception, predictable and, I'm sorry to say, fairly clueless.

...if you're a bureaucrat and sport a lazy brain. Bureaucracy can be a beautiful thing, but when it's lazy it becomes the fictional product of Franz Kafka, and my name becomes Josef K.

...if you're the type of individual who say that you need to "think about yourself and not so much about other people". This usually means that you in reality rarely think about other things than your own arse, and your own arse probably take up a lot of your brain capacity.

...if you're a nerd and claim that girls don't read comics or roleplay or whathaveyou, because girls don't go to conventions as much as guys and dispose themselves to sweaty sexist dipshits.

...if you are a fan of the PUA culture or take part of it.

One week in Sweden, one week of errands and fixing, sporadic internet, many cats (pictures will come later), surreal academic endeavors (last word on this topic isn't said yet), surreal meetings with people from the past, two assholes, one who's just married to one and the rest were all nice encounters. I've started re-watching Babylon 5 on my little portable dvd player late at night when work and social play is done, and it's nice, very nostalgic and still enjoyable in spite of silly moments.

Computer labs with hairy cats at [livejournal.com profile] northernveil's and [livejournal.com profile] pierson's this afternoon and hanging with hairless cats later, parties and people for a bit, but also a lot of calm a lot of loss and some disappointment. A more explicit and perhaps filtered post may come on a LJ near you in the future.

Date: 2009-09-04 09:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tommdroid.livejournal.com
Nice to have you so close.

Just what the frell is a PUA?

Date: 2009-09-04 09:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
PUA is not even worth explaining, but I'll do it anyway later, perhaps over the phone...

Date: 2009-09-04 11:43 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] chocolatebark.livejournal.com
I was wondering about the PUA acronym too!

Date: 2009-09-04 12:36 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
Pick up artists, my friend, a culture for soulless douchebags and the mollusks who look up to them...

Date: 2009-09-04 02:13 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] darquis.livejournal.com
*wince* The creeps who claim women hate nice guys, so they "become" Neanderthal jerks in order to win the busty blonde they "deserve"?

Also, I keep telling several of my friends to actually stop thinking so much about other people and save some love for themselves. That's the other end of the spectrum, I guess.

Date: 2009-09-04 02:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
yeah, those guys. And the only people registering as "women" on their radar would be a particular kind of alpha female with very narrow aesthetic traits, and often other unpleasant personality traits in place alongside those model measurements. So, the guy becomes an asshole, attracts female versions of player assholes (the narrow group who views player characteristics as boyfriend material), it doesn't work out, or it does, and he and his brothers claim to "know all about what women want".

If someone has to tell the person to stop thinking of others for a while, then it probably means that they ARE thinking of others and doing stuff for them. If they themselves constantly tell others that they should stop caring about others, you probably have a lazy, spoiled adult-baby on your hands.

Date: 2009-09-04 11:23 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] wolfchilde.livejournal.com
My big one: I have nothing against gays, I just don't think you should be allowed to be married or that our kids should be taught about you in schools...

I LOVE me some B5!!!

Date: 2009-09-04 12:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
yeah, that's a classic... my list could have gone on, but I decided to just post what's been pissing in the pudding for the last week or so. Thank all gay deities for B5!

Date: 2009-09-04 12:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] blue-thundering.livejournal.com
I <3 Seal with bite. :)

Date: 2009-09-04 12:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
haha, you make up a lonesome club baby, but I'll do it just for you and my own mental health if I have to!

Date: 2009-09-04 12:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] blue-thundering.livejournal.com
I think we should leave "club" "baby" and "seal" in different linguistic time zones. o_o

Otherwise, though -- thank you for the huge grin this morning!

Date: 2009-09-04 01:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
argh, it shows how distracted I am!

Date: 2009-09-04 06:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dyskodyke.livejournal.com
I'm in this club, too! You're always so aptly saying everything I'm thinking.

I used to be one of those girls who got along with guys better, when I was a teenager. It still kind of shames me. I mean, I know it was founded in ignorance and now I know better, but still, the misogyny. Ugh. But I am so endlessly grateful for my friendships with awesome women (like yrself) now, and the trust/understanding/safety that comes along with them.

Date: 2009-09-04 09:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
I think there can be a time in a young woman's life when she tries to separate herself from her own gender and show the guys how attractive/special she is through different ways, one way is to be a girl with mainly male friends, and there is nothing wrong with that. But..if they grow up and *still* bitch about how they don't like to hang out with women because of this and that bullshit and how guys are sooo much easier and less confrontational...that's when it gets stale and dumb.
I love women who understand themselves and alalyze themselves and their motives, like you do.

Date: 2009-09-04 12:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lelain.livejournal.com
Wow. You sound a tad bit stressed. Hope things improve soon.

Date: 2009-09-04 01:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
It goes up and down, but the first week or two can be quite a bit funky, for various reasons. I'm sure I'll whine some more about it :P

Date: 2009-09-04 01:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] seamusd.livejournal.com
The health care debate seems to have been hijacked by screaming, Republican-backed astroturfers, but the real culprit for the spread of misinformation is the US Media, who have failed miserably. I look at it this way: about 50% of Americans want a strong public option. About 25% will never accept it until they see how much of an improvement it will be. The other 25% have questions, such as how we will pay for it, that can easily be answered by better Media coverage. Obama and the Dems are about to make a huge mistake and compromise when compromise is completely unnecessary.

Date: 2009-09-04 01:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
I don't think most people grasp how much corporate money the libertarian and republican think tanks have received for years, to spread their messages, the media and the dems should really have seen this coming and been more prepared.

Date: 2009-09-04 01:42 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mojodragonfly.livejournal.com
Give 'em truth Seal!!

them bastards deserve it.

Date: 2009-09-04 02:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
To be honest, in some political communities there are individuals too dumb for the truth, which may or may not mean that they deserve it. If you choose to be brain washed by think tanks, well, then maybe your daddy could just as well go bankrupt from cancer treatment. I know...I may not be a good person any more...

Date: 2009-09-04 02:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mojodragonfly.livejournal.com
I know. I think we might wage similar battle on the internet, and in life. I can not tell you how willfully ignorant some members of my family, and some good friends work hard to remain. It is often spirit-killing.

Disillusion hurts. People need to be disillusioned. It can be hard. Americans love their illusions!!

Date: 2009-09-04 02:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
and the funny part is that they tell ME that I have illusions, it doesn't matter that I've actually experienced 3 health care systems first hand and cam compare.

Date: 2009-09-04 02:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mojodragonfly.livejournal.com
the biggest failure of the "corporate media" is the general lack of honest assestment of different systems around the world.


I must say this, as I say it everywhere, if the Democrats attempt to push through a bill without a robust public option, but with mandates still in place, I probably won't support the bill, unless I see something like the public option to lower costs. Forcing people to buy expensize insurance is not the way to go. The Finance Committee all ready has the subsidies at 300% of the poverty line, and workign to make it lower. That leaves many families out.

Date: 2009-09-04 02:33 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
I wish there could be more discussion about public options and other variations of the bill, but without the fucking lies and scare tactics and town hall screamers. God the lack of rational debate, it's like fucking la-la land....

Date: 2009-09-04 02:20 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] idemandjustice.livejournal.com
..if you're a woman who claim that you get along with men better and don't ever analyze your own motives for why that is. These type of girls are mostly, with the rare exception, predictable and, I'm sorry to say, fairly clueless.

I used to be one of those. But that was a long while ago, and I didn't really know a lot of really nice females, people like you and Rachel and some other good friends of mine. I had a lot of bad experiences with female "friends", up until a couple of years after I got out of high school. To be fair, in hindsight, my male friends really weren't better; with a couple of exceptions, they were nice to me because I was the "rare" female nerd. (Yes, I read your other comment about that, and it annoys me, too. I really enjoyed an essay someone wrote called, "I'm not a geek for you!")

Date: 2009-09-04 02:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
See, this is what i'm talking about. You thought about it and figured it out, why isn't everybody as smart? Truth is often that they are too fond of feeling special and wanting social status. Bad experiences with dysfunctional female groups would be the only understandable reason I can come to think of for harboring such prejudice, but as you said, male groups often have their own problems and those are neither smaller nor fewer.

Date: 2009-09-04 06:34 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] foxfirefey
Me too, and I also grew out of it, and am glad I did and now have lots of really good girl friends. I think in hindsight I disliked so much of what woman culture could be like (think grocery store checkout magazines aimed at us), and it made me kind of want to disown my own femaleness. When I was younger and going through the stage where a lot of the girls around me were really focused on the kind of stuff in those magazines, it was usually just easier to try and "be one of the guys" than to try and get beyond our differences--in ways, their interests in things that I didn't really like (makeup, fashion) threatened me, and their relative disinterest in things I was interested in made it hard to connect. I also had yet to learn about the kinds of social dynamics that I think come earlier and easier to others, and that didn't help either.

But now I'm mostly past that weird awkward defensive teenage stage, and I have girl friends who I find interesting and rewarding. I'm also bit more socially sure of my odd self, so easier to relax and feel less threatened by women who are more into classically feminine pursuits, and I can socialize with them even if they're not the kind of person I'd end up being friend-friends with.

Date: 2009-09-04 10:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
Yes, exactly. I too was one of those ungirly girls, but I had the fortune of finding female friends who either respected that or were like me. In my late teens I also got some good guy friends, I've observed what kind of problems can arise in strictly male groups, strictly female groups and in mixed groups, it's interesting, but also easy to de-mystify if you understand certain dynamics. What really rubs me the wrong way are those women who sport such an easy prejudice towards their own gender and never reflect on why things seem to play out a certain way.

Date: 2009-09-04 02:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nerak-g.livejournal.com
OH, I do so love pictorial evidence of travel.

Warmth & hugs

Date: 2009-09-04 03:50 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
I don't have any fabulous travel pics yet, much, mostly train shots and cats, and some really poor poetry written...maybe in the future.

Date: 2009-09-04 02:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] simpletwice.livejournal.com
Hairless cats: I haven't figured out yet whether I think they are amazing, or creepy. Does petting them feel like petting a warm suede jacket?

Date: 2009-09-04 03:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
not quite, unless the cat is unusually fuzzy, in which case he/she would be considered defective. They are warm and a bit wrinkly, but mostly it's almost like skin, soft and warm and dry, unless they go unwashed for too long, then I've heard they have a tendency to get a little oily.

They are amazing and a little creepy, but once you get used to them, you notice that they are just funky looking cats, with cat-like traits and quirks.

Date: 2009-09-04 02:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jinxle.livejournal.com
Oh, I just love you! *smooch*

Date: 2009-09-04 03:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
smooches back to you sweetie, with cream and cherries and butterscotch flakes!

Date: 2009-09-04 10:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
I have always been in love with that icon of yours, it's just perfect.

Date: 2009-09-04 06:50 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] liquid-siftings.livejournal.com
speak truth, my friend!!

As an aside, my wife is a woman who gets along better with men, but she is very self-aware, and I assume you are calling out a certain kind of "blindness" in some women rather than suggesting that it's wrong for women to get along better with men as a general rule.

Date: 2009-09-04 10:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
yes, exactly. There *are* women who do have easier social interactions with men, just as there are men who genuinely have easier social interactions with women, but who don't despise their own gender because of this. Those things probably have more to do with social language and signals, and those individuals don't necessarily go cannibalistic on their own gender because of that.

Date: 2009-09-07 06:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dust-rat.livejournal.com
Do you belive the opposite is true also? That is, I prefer to hang out with the female part of the reality, and have very, very few guy friends, and despise most of the male community with passion!

Date: 2009-09-07 03:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
yeah, I know there are such guys, actually the Geek is a little like that, only he's not the despising kind, so in him it's more a shrug.
We've discussed the matter and from what he told me, it comes from being disappointed by male to male social interactions and weary of the competition in masculine culture. I think that's okay, as long as there's awareness, just like it's okay that certain women that got too burned by dysfunctional women groups can have an easier tendency toward male groups...but, it's important for such guys and gals to remember that part of the reason for why they do have an easier time in a group dominated by their opposite sex is not because their opposite sex necessarily is better or more "good", but because they themselves become an exception from certain dynamics in a group dominated by a certain gender.

Date: 2009-09-04 10:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] quiet-flame.livejournal.com
i'm so glad people like you exist.

Date: 2009-09-04 10:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
Likewise, I'm always very glad to read what you post.

Date: 2009-09-04 11:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jlsjlsjls.livejournal.com
There are very few things more delightful than opening up LJ and finding a new Seal post. ☺☺☺

Date: 2009-09-05 03:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
yay! I've missed you guys and this place!

Date: 2009-09-06 10:47 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pachamama.livejournal.com
You rock, sister.

I sit here in utter confusion, looking at the American media in jaw-dropped disbelief. You can stand and scream "black is white! up is down! left is right!" as loudly as you want, but it doesn't make it so. How can anyone fail to see the emperor has no clothes here? The rest of the world looks at America amazed (not for the first time).

Date: 2009-09-06 10:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
It must be very hard, being an American living in the UK and listening to the huge smearing campaign about the UK health care system that's going on in the US now... I know you've talked about it before, how you appreciate universal health care and your experience with it.
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